Wedding RSVP Wording Ideas and Format – 2017 Edition

One of the most frequently asked questions we’ve seen when it comes to online wedding RSVPs and wedding invitations centers on proper wedding RSVP wording. What info do you need to include on your RSVP? What’s the most appropriate way to structure your RSVP in order to both:

  • A) establish the proper tone for your special day and
  • B) make sure that you get all of the critical info you need for your own planning process?

The wording of your wedding RSVP can be uniquely yours

Whether you opt for a paper RSVP or online version, there’s no right or wrong way to word your RSVP. There are, however, some common elements that you should include – and some popular ways to phrase the various sections of your wedding RSVP to make it easy for your guests to read and quickly fill in.

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There’s Four Elements Critical to Your Wedding RSVP

1. RSVP By Date.

Ask your guests to RSVP by a specific date, or you may find yourself chasing RSVPs down from wayward guests. If you find that you have a few guests dragging their feet, check out our advice for how to remind your guests to RSVP. If you’re curious as to what to expect in terms of your RSVP timeline, you can see our analysis of how long it takes for wedding guests to RSVP on average.

2. The Names of Your guests.

It’s important to know who the RSVP is from, wouldn’t you agree? Traditionally, your guests will enter their names after the “M” on your RSVP – with the “M” as the first letter of Mr., Mrs., or Miss.

3. Accept or Decline?

Another important one. Ask your guests whether or not they can come to your wedding (and your wedding’s Secondary Events such as brunch).

4. Entrée Preference.

This section will depend on what you’re serving at the reception. If you’re opting for a buffet, chances are you can leave this section off altogether. If you have multiple entrée options, list the options, and ask your guests to tally the entrée preferences for their party and place a number next to each entrée option. 

There’s multiple approaches to wording your wedding RSVP so it’s perfect for YOU

We decided to highlight a few RSVPs that we love, as well as provide some basic suggestions to consider, in order for you to choose the perfect wedding RSVP wording and get the most out of your online wedding RSVP.

The Traditional Approach

Let’s start with the basic must-haves on any wedding RSVP: Whether someone plans to attend or not, and naturally, the name of the guest! If you don’t put anything else on your wedding RSVP, you always want to start with this. Here’s an example of a no-frills, traditional RSVP:

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A couple of things to note with this example: A standard call to action is always needed at the top – in this case, “Your reply is requested by October 7th”.

While this is an important thing to include, we’d always recommend adding in a clear call to action even before setting a deadline. Something as simple as “Will you be joining us?” or “Will you be in attendance?” is key for making your RSVP that much more clear, and removing any ambiguity.

A few other things this RSVP includes that are important – clear fields for indicating attendance or not (more on how you can play around and have fun with this wording in a little bit!), as well as a nice little thank you/salutation note at the bottom (so people don’t feel like they’re being asked to do something, which, hey, they are).

The Minimalist/Bare Bones Approach

Some people don’t want to spend too much time on their wedding RSVP wording, and that’s totally fine! This example below still checks off those basic boxes we identified above (Accept or decline, the date, and a field for the guest name) without any excessive wording. This couple also chose to include their meal request at the bottom – this is becoming a much more popular choice for couples than in the past, mostly because it makes sense! Why not use your wedding RSVP wording to gather as much info as possible?

Credit: diyweddingsprintable on Etsy. Wedding RSVP Card.

Remember, your wording around meal options should be as revealing (or not revealing) as you’d like. If you want to get people excited about the menu for your special day, feel free to be more specific (Steak, Halibut, Shrimp, etc. with all the details) or just get the basics, like this example above (Meat, Fish, or Veggie option).

Here’s how your wedding RSVP might look

The Favor of Your Reply is Requested by May First

M _______________________

________ Accept With Pleasure!

________ Decline with Regret

______ Chicken Parmesan

______ Filet Mignon

______ Vegetarian

Wording for the ‘RSVP By Date’ Section

There’s a handful of ways to word your call to action asking guests to RSVP by a certain date.

The Favor of Your Reply is Requested by May First
Please Reply By 05.01.2104
Kindly Reply by May First
Reply by 05.01.2014
Kindly Let Us Know By 05.01.2014
RSVP By 05/01/2014
Please Respond By May First
RSVP by May 1st or forever hold you peace
RSVP by May 1st or will use at least 4 forms of communication to hassle you

Accept/Decline Wording

There’s also an almost infinite number of ways you can go about wording the text of your accept and decline lines. Here’s a few of our favorites, ranging from the traditional to the clever and comical.

Wedding RSVP Wording Suggestions


Accepts with Pleasure
Declines with Regrets
Delighted to Attend
Regretfully Cannot Join You


Can’t Wait!
Sorry, Wish I Could Be There We Will See You There!
Sorry To Miss Out

Let the Good Times Roll!
You’re Going to Have to Carry On Without Me

Bags Packed, Ready to Go!
Hate to Say Can’t Make It

Deal Me In!
Sitting This One Out

Excited to Celebrate with You!
Sad to Miss All Fun

Funny & Clever

Wouldn’t Miss It For the World
The World is Not Enough

Let’s Get Rowdy!
Show Must Go On Without Me

Aw, Yeah! Drinks on Me!
I’ll Be There In Spirit

Free booze? Yes, please.
In a nutshell…I’m lame.

Only if you’ll be playing “Forever” by Chris Brown
Not even “Call Me Maybe” will entice me

Have any additions to list?  Let us know in the comments!  Good luck with your RSVP, and remember that the wording of your wedding RSVP should reflect you and your fiance!

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10 thoughts on “Wedding RSVP Wording Ideas and Format – 2017 Edition

  1. These are great! Has anyone actually tried using some of the more ‘funny & clever’ options? I hesitate because my family is very traditional, and I’m not sure how they might feel about it…

    1. I’m hosting a “Rat pack and Casino night” for my husband’s 50th.
      mine says “all in” and ” I fold”. I have received compliments from guest, they think its cute we are following the casino theme.

    2. My question to you, Why does it matter what they think? It’s your day, Your invites, You should show your personality. Have fun if you choose too!

  2. That makes a lot of sense to include an RSVP section if you don;t have a buffet. That will you’ll have info to plan your food accomodations. I know my family from the east really likes seafood, but the midwesterners don’t; we’ll have to find something for everybody.

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