Congratulations, You’re Engaged! Here Are Five Things You Should Do Next

So you just got engaged – congratulations! Everyone should always give themselves to enjoy the excitement and joy from such a momentous life event. However, once the adrenaline wears off, suddenly you are faced with the not-so-fun part of an engagement – all the wedding planning that you will need to do for your big day.

But don’t get too worried! Whether you’re planning to get married ASAP, or take your time and spread out your wedding planning, focusing on a few key areas can make all the difference in lessening the stress of making your big day as perfect as possible. We’ve decided to focus on five important details and considerations to check off as you begin to move on from your engagement and into full-on wedding planning:

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1. Start Outlining Your Guest List

Before you move on to the other parts of wedding planning, it’s important to know how many people you are planning for. From choosing your venue, to figuring out catering, to all the other details in between, drafting and finalizing a guest list early can make everything else that comes next much less of a headache. Here are a few tips to make creating your guest list easy.

  • Create a first draft – this should include anyone you may want to invite, even if you are on the fence. Coming up with a master list will help you make sure you don’t leave anyone out.
  • Prioritize into A, B, & C tiers – your budget or venue may force you to limit who you plan to invite. Once you have a master list, creating tiers helps you to be realistic about who needs to be included.
  • Ask your parents – trust us, they will want to have a say. Checking in with them now can let you avoid awkward conversations later.
  • Remember – not everyone you invite will be able to make it, so always factor that in when creating your final guest list. Here’s a handy tool for estimating how many guests you should expect to actually attend.

2. Discuss Your Timeline And Budget

Now that you have an idea of who is coming, figuring out how long you have to plan and how much you have to spend come next. Be realistic about your budget – every little part of a wedding costs money, and those costs can mount before you realize it. While everyone wants their dream day to include everything possible, your budget dictates what you can and can’t do. This also will influence which venue you choose (which we consider part 2b). Fortunately, there are also some great tools for estimating your wedding cost that can make this easier.

Once you know your budget and picked out a venue that can fit your guest list, reserve it! Now that you have a date in mind, the best thing to do is work backwards and figure out what you need to do when. Vendor reservations (DJ, photographer, flowers, etc) should always come ASAP, so you can be sure you have them booked. Smaller things (wedding favors, the cake, etc) can come later. Ideally, create a calendar and set deadlines for the different things you need to plan. This keeps you on track and lets you avoid feeling too overwhelmed. Another helpful trick is to use this handy RSVP response calculator to let you know when you can expect to have your final guest info, which you’ll need for your vendors as the date approaches.

3. Choose Your Wedding Party!

Since bridesmaids and groomsmen will need to be more involved in the wedding and have more responsibilities, figuring out who you plan to ask early makes it easier to let them know well in advance. While the traditional number is usually a best man/maid of honor plus two or three, how many people you want to include is entirely up to you! 

4. Collect Inspiration From As Many Sources As You Can

The Internet has made brainstorming cute and creative ideas for a wedding easier than ever. Here are a few great resources that are particularly helpful for any couple beginning their planning process, with ideas and FAQs for everything from choosing venues to decorating ideas:

5. Throw An Engagement Party!

We decided to save the best for last – celebrate your engagement with your family and friends. Trust us, it will be a nice distraction before you dive full-on into wedding planning. Whether you want to throw a massive bash with everyone you know, or a small intimate gathering with your closest friends and family, there are some great ideas and helpful resources with coming up with an idea to celebrate your big news.

Example of engagement party paper invitation. Black and white calligraphy engagement invitation. "Join us to celebrate the engagement of Christina & Zachary".

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