Broadway fans in general—and Hamilton enthusiasts, specifically, “wanna be in the room where it happens.”
That’s certainly fun. But nonprofits also need to know who is in the room.
Because if you don’t prioritize your audience, countless hours planning even the most dazzling event can mean the difference between an expensive party and an intentional step towards long-term engagement with your nonprofit.
Yes, we still need to secure vendors, design invitations, and manage logistics. But an event’s true value lies not only in the dollars raised that night, but in the relationships it strengthens. As nonprofit events become less transactional and more relationship-driven, understanding both your intended and actual audience is more important than ever.
I recently attended a small nonprofit’s “biggest fundraising event of the year.” As a new volunteer, I looked forward to feeling more connected to the organization and the board members I’d talked with over the phone but had yet to meet in real life.
Pre-registration was not required, and cash was accepted at the door. The on-site “registration” folks didn’t ask for my name. Certainly not my email address. Nor did they ask how I heard about the event, nary a pen and paper or clipboard or iPhone in sight. Cash in hand, they encouraged me to “enjoy the event!” as I walked in.
We can all guess how that turned out.
No one knew I was there. It was up to me, a natural introvert flying solo, to seek out members of the organization. While the event drew a strong turnout, no visible effort was made to engage guests on a personal level. Volunteers sold cash-only raffle tickets and led a registration-less auction and paddle raise. They collected a significant amount of money that night—and had no idea who gave it.
Sadly, after a solid effort, I left feeling less invested in the organization than I had before.
They didn’t send a thank you note for my gifts or for attending. (How could they? There was no record of my name, gift amount, or contact information.)
Not every situation will be this obvious, but the take-home message is clear: you can’t tailor an intentional, personal touchpoint—and subsequent stewardship and solicitation—if you don’t know who’s in the room.
If you are in the good habit of collecting registration information prior to event day, you may be saying to yourself, of course I know who’s in the room! I’ve got lists! So many lists!
But what do you really know about your event guests?
Michael Rubin, MBA, CFRE, ACC, founder and president of a St. Louis-based fundraising consulting firm that manages capital and comprehensive campaigns, often incorporates events to call attention to a campaign and its impact, engage and solicit donors, and celebrate the competition of a successful initiative. Over his more than 40 years as a fundraising professional, he’s seen galas and special events become “increasingly strategic touchpoints in engaging and making the donor feel like family.”
Throwing an event that cultivates this sense of belonging is no happy accident. Bookmark these conversations for your event planning toolkit:
Once invitations are sent, organizations often redirect their energy to party planning—catering, color schemes, and other details—without prioritizing the donor experience. Instead, Rubin advises, “pay attention to how the donor will be welcomed, by whom, the ideal outcome for each individual, and how event engagement fits into that goal.”
Knowing who is in the room, including ticket purchasers, table hosts, and the guests they bring, is vital to tailoring an intentional touchpoint that recognizes their motivation to support your nonprofit’s mission.
Well in advance of the event, research each guest’s history with the organization, including:
Then, strategize table seating and donor engagement plans accordingly.
Thanks to your preparation, you know how to engage donors and guests. It’s time to put those plans into action.
Background research is an often-overlooked step towards making donors and prospects feel seen, respected, and appreciated. But don’t confuse research with transactions—lead with relationships in your donor engagement strategies. Always remember that the nonprofit community is comprised of unique individuals who are driven by many factors, including passion for the mission or personal connection to and trust in the organization.
Rubin agrees: “Donors want to help and make a difference,” he says. “Our job is to listen carefully to their needs, desires, and concerns. It will help us identify what they support and why. But only if we’re prepared for that conversation. Engaging them at an event is the start of that conversation.”
Stay tuned for tips on how to tailor your event follow-up.
About the Author
Caren Friedman has spent more than two decades advancing philanthropy at internationally recognized nonprofit institutions. She is the Founder and Chief Storyteller at Caren Friedman Communications (CFC), LLC, where she helps nonprofit and mission-driven organizations increase engagement through audience-centered communications and inspired storytelling. Since launching CFC in 2018, she’s been engaged by nonprofits across the sector, earning repeat contracts with leaders in higher education, arts and culture, and social services. She has helped raise millions of dollars for nonprofits of all sizes, including writing thoughtful, persuasive cases for support for The Ark Chicago, Herbert Hoover Presidential Library and Museum, URJ Goldman Union Camp Institute (GUCI), Minnesota College of Veterinary Medicine, Owensboro Museum of Fine Art, and Waldorf School of St. Louis. Prior to launching CFC, Caren was Director of Development Communications at the Art Institute of Chicago, where she built the museum’s first donor-centric communications team and raised the bar for messages befitting a world-class institution. As Director of Annual Giving at the renowned Lincoln Park Zoo, Caren brought in more than $7 million in unrestricted gifts. She has held fundraising and volunteer board roles at Chicagoland nonprofits including Spertus Institute, Rochelle Zell Jewish High School, Reading in Motion, and Erasing the Distance—all of which utilized events to strategically steward, cultivate, and fundraise. Caren graduated summa cum laude and Phi Beta Kappa from Washington University in St. Louis, where she also earned her Master of Social Work. A Development Leadership Consortium (DLC) Management Fellows alum and Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW), Caren lives in Chicago. Want to elevate your donor communications? Does your nonprofit need a compelling story that raises more money? Reach out to Caren here or at [email protected].
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